"We are all wanderers on this earth...our hearts are full of wonder, and our souls are deep with dreams." ~ Gypsy proverb

Monday, April 11, 2011

"Faith is knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof." ~ Kahlil Gibran

In a culture obsessed with proof, I gladly float among uncertainty.  I gladly look upon my children in wonder, knowing that I have no idea of what they will become.  I confess that I sometimes make choices out of fear, or let other people's fear seep into mine.  But, that fear is no longer blind.  I can stare fear in the face and boldly challenge it, knowing there is nothing I need to prove to anyone.  I gladly concede my need to prove--prove that I am a good mom, prove that I am making the right decisions, prove that my children will be happy one day, or successful.  I gladly concede that need to prove, for faith and trust in them, in me, and in the nature of all things. 

What I will offer instead of proof, is a promise to myself and to them.  My promise is that I will always give them my best.  And to them, I promise that they will never need to prove anything to me beyond what they need to prove to themselves.  If they can find worth from within, not from anyone else, and if they can find the ability to face fears, climb them, and then maybe turn them into something good, then I know my faith has prevailed beyond any burden of proof.


Hope everyone had a beautiful, peaceful weekend :)!!

12 comments:

  1. You are so wise! You rock MJ! There is nothing like recognizing you fear and knowing that is what you are dealing with. I love how you care for your children-amazing!
    Thank you for this wonderful post.

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  2. Another beautiful post! "If they can find worth from within, not from anyone else, and if they can find the ability to face fears, climb them, and then maybe turn them into something good..." This is absolutely what I want for my girl as well. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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  3. Nice one, Mama. I love the appreciation you have for your children, and more so, how you share it. I think letting our kids know how much they mean to us on a daily basis is so important. It's clear your kids get a LOT of appreciation for being who they are.

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  4. AMEN Sister!!! Good for you!! There are so many people out there with so many opinions.. It's hard sometimes to block out all the chatter to hear your own inner voice. I love what you said about gladly conceding your need to prove. I am SO proud of you for that, and I admire your boldness. At the end of it all, your relationship with your family is what matters. The beautiful, peaceful space that you are creating for them is something that everyone could use a little more of in their lives. Living in fear of what others think is what a lot of people do. It takes a lot of courage to break the cycles of the past and create your own healthy ones. But you are doing it with such humble grace. I love it!!

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  5. Such a beautiful post. I know that fear can often raise it's ugly head,and make me doubt my decisions. I love your mantra, that you can make a promise to give your children the best.
    If I can surrender, then I can flow through parenthood with grace (hopefully). thank you for this, it brings me comfort xxx

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  6. Beautiful MJ! And I so agree. My philosophy has always been...they deserve the best mom, that I can be.

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  7. Beautifully said, MJ! You speak with such wisdom, courage and love. Your children are so blessed to have such an example and to be showered in such love and trust!

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  8. ah, well said and beautiful.
    glad to have found your space here!

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  9. So beautiful; way to go, mama, for raising strong, independent babes.

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  10. such a lovely post, and such wonderful thoughts. As someone who has always had the need to prove myself to my parents and is, even now, expected to live up to their standards and requirements of behaviour, I can sincerely tell you that you could not do any thing greater for your children than give them that innate sense of acceptance and feeling of being loved for being who they are.

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  11. Lovely lovely post! What a wonderful way to raise your children!

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  12. Your writing is so inspiring! I love coming and getting my daily dose of mama inspiration. Thanks!

    :)Lisa

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